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published in Change, Inspiration, Synchronicity by Maryanne | March 6, 2019 | 4 Comments

I’m In Love With My Car

 

MA’s new CRV (2017)

“Synchronicity is the Universe saying you’re getting warmer.”

Michelle Risi

Have you seen Bohemian Rhapsody

I finally watched the movie the other night with Ella (10) and Paige (16). We loved it!

Paige and I got Ella on the Queen-bandwagon good and early in life. When she was oh, maybe 6, her Dad, Davie, came home to find Ella (under my Auntie-supervision) singing along to Bohemian Rhapsody at the top of her lungs on the Karaoke machine…”Mamma…just killed a man…put a gun against his head, pulled my trigger, now he’s dead.”

Davie looked at me (can’t imagine why) like I had horns growing out of my head.

At any rate, if you’ve seen the Bohemian Rhapsody film, you may recall the cute scene when one of the band members wrote the song, “I’m in Love With My Car,” and everyone else in the band thought it was odd and kinda stupid. But the songwriter held firm and the song made it onto the album. It is odd but millions of fans love it – myself included.

For all my concern about the burning of fossil fuels being a significant contributor to climate change, I do still love my car. Enough so, that I drove my old CRV (2001) for eighteen years.

Love this shot of Sadie in the old CRV at Pebble Beach, CA, 2018

If I had it my way, I would have kept driving it…until it drove no longer. But when the odometer passed the 350,000 km mark, I finally gave in to the many chirping men in my life who kept asking me when was I going to get a NEW car?

If you are a regular reader of my blogs (or know me personally), you may have noticed I have technical difficulties with the concept of “letting go.” Whether it’s men, dogs, couches, TVs (I still have a TV from 1990…you can just imagine what guys say when they see that?!), books or china, letting go is something I have to really work at.

So it probably won’t surprise you to hear that I didn’t really get rid of my old CRV when the new one drove into my life. I mean, yes…I gave my old CRV away (to Paige) but I can still visit it anytime I want 🙂

Paige at the wheel of her new CRV

 

Me in my (borrowed from Paige & Ella’s sister, Taylor) Freddy Mercury Adidas, in an early morning driving lesson with Paige

As for my new CRV (2017), it’s kind of neat how it found it’s way to me. Over the past two months, I had been researching what type of vehicle I would like. In January, I test-drove the Tesla Model 3…loved it (but not the price tag)! I considered getting a less expensive electric car but decided to wait a few more years for more super-charging stations to get built. If I had to do a regular commute, an electric vehicle would have made sense. For my big road-trips, I wasn’t quite as confident…yet.

I considered the Toyota RAV4 Hybrid but didn’t want to buy a used one because then I couldn’t be sure of the remaining battery-life. And a new one was out of my price range.

Then I thought about a brand new CRV (because I loved my 2001 one so much) but it was also a bit expensive. Then I thought about a slightly used CRV with low kilometers. Getting warmer…

It just so happened that in the middle of all this research, I was visiting my cousin in Victoria and he suggested I pop into the car broker, Noble Car Buyers Ltd, and hear what they had to say. Several of his buddies has recently used their services and had excellent experiences.

So I did just that…and if you’re not familiar with a car broker, what they do is charge you a flat finders fee (at Noble it is $750) and they find your vehicle – new or used – for the best price. They negotiate the price with the seller and have the vehicle delivered to their office…you just show up, pay for it, get your insurance & registration right there, then drive away in your new wheels.

Now, if you are like me (and many other people, I suspect), the prospect of negotiating with a car salesman at a car dealership (for a new or used vehicle) is not something I look forward to. In fact, I avoid it all costs, mainly because price-negotiations is NOT my strength. Just ask the carpet salesmen in Morocco…they loved me!

So there I am…getting the scoop from the Noble Car Buyers guy in the front office, when out wanders the big cheese (the owner, Russ Noble) from the back office. Russ joins our conversation and the next thing I know, Russ says to me, “Well…if it’s a slightly used CRV Touring you really want, I suppose I could sell you my wife’s car. It’s a 2017 with 21,000 km.”

To which my eyes lit up like fireworks on the Fourth of July. Then I remembered my manners.

“But what about your wife?” I said. “Doesn’t she want her CRV?”

“I’ll ask her,” he said. “In the meantime, you need to test drive the 2019 CRV Touring…it’s exactly the same as the 2017.”

And wouldn’t you know it, my very next appointment that day was to do just that. And let’s just say, it was love at first sight 🙂

Ella & MA on new car day!

A week later, I drove away in Russ’s wife’s 2017 CRV (she was a-okay with it…being married to a car broker, I suspect she’s used to getting a new vehicle on a rather regular basis).

Thanks for reading & may the week ahead bring YOU closer to whatever it is you need! 

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Maryanne Pope is the author of A Widow’s Awakening, the playwright of Saviour and the screenwriter of God’s Country. Maryanne is CEO of Pink Gazelle Productions and Chair of the John Petropoulos Memorial Fund. If you would like to receive her regular weekly blog, please sign up here

Impossible Dreams – Bringing Your Vision to Life

 

 

“It always seems impossible until it is done.”

– Nelson Mandela

I was at a business networking event in Victoria recently and heard an excellent speaker deliver a presentation that really resonated with me, so I thought I’d share a bit about that in this blog.

The event was hosted by the Westshore Women’s Business Network and the speaker was Barbara Edie, author of Creating the Impossible; What It Takes to Bring Your Vision to Life.

Barbara’s presentation was about the importance of achieving our dreams – and since I am smack in the middle of writing my own book on that same subject matter (Barrier Removed; A Tough Love Guide to Achieving Your Dreams,) I was very interested to hear what she had to say 🙂

Here are a few highlights from Barbara’s presentation:

In regards to why some people DON’T tend to pursue their dreams, comfort plays a key role. “Safe and secure,” Barbara said, “is often the reason people stay where they are and don’t make a change.”

This reminded me of one of my favourite quotes by Anais Nin. A previous owner had written it on the side of the garden shed in my yard in Sidney – and when I saw it, I knew it was another little sign this was the home for me:

Barbara also spoke about how sometimes people don’t pursue their dreams because on some level, they think they are impossible to achieve – so why bother?

“But the only time dreams become impossible,” said Edie, “is in your thinking.”

Or as Nelson Mandela put it: “It always seems impossible until it is done.”

As to HOW to achieve our dreams – bring your vision to life – Barbara talked about the importance of FOCUS.

“Focus is everything,” she said. “All powerful creators begin with the end in mind.”

And when you know what your vision is and you have the focus to take the necessary steps to achieve it, another useful technique is to take the time to tap into the positive emotion that you will feel when you do achieve it. If you can visualize ahead of time that positive emotion associated with your achievement, this will help bring about the actual achievement faster.

For me, this idea opened up a smelly little can of worms. I had a huge aha! moment. When I think of the end result of achieving my dreams – say when one of my screenplays is seen as a movie on the big screen – I don’t feel positive emotion. I feel all sorts of negative emotions: fear, anxiety, nervousness. What if it sucks? What if it is a failure? What if everybody hates it – or people are pissed off at me?

Or what if it IS a hit…how will I handle all the extra work and responsibilities and change that come with significant success? I can scarcely handle my life now (well, okay, it’s really just the unanswered e-mail that is out of control).

For me, writing itself is my passion. The process of writing is my happy place – not the finished product…which likely explains why so many of my big writing projects are taking so damn long to get produced!

But of course now that I am AWARE of this, things will change…because I will change 🙂

Barbara also spoke about the integral role that intuition can play in helping guide us. “When we start to tap into our soul’s magic,” she explained, “things can start to happen quite quickly.”

This is certainly what I am experiencing!

“The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honours the servant and has forgotten the gift.”

– Albert Einstein

Barbara reiterated the importance of paying attention to the things that are going on around us – and in us. If we get a feeling to call a friend or reach out to someone, to do it…because we just never know the higher reason. Perhaps it is something they really need from us – or it may lead to an opportunity that is just waiting to present itself.

Barbara called this the FYI principle: Follow Your Intuition.

And why do we need to follow our intuition?

“Because,” she said, “Intuition is how your heart communicates with your higher self.”

Love it!

“And when you act,” she continued, “you will be amazed at the things that come together – because the Universe responds to action.”

The key word here, of course, is ACTION. 

After her presentation, I went up to Barbara and introduced myself. I thanked her and explained that much of what she’d said had really clicked with me. Then, for some reason, we got chatting about how it’s not the number of years we live that matters as much as how we live the years we do have.

“Even when someone does make it to 90,” she said, “that doesn’t necessarily mean they have really lived 90 years. Rather, they may have just pretty much lived the same year over and over again, 90 times.”

Wow, eh?

To sum up, here are Barbara’s 3 tips to help bring your vision to life: 

1.) Focus!

2.) Once you have your vision, tap into the positive emotion you will feel when you achieve your dream

3.) Follow Your Intuition

Related blogs by Maryanne

Without Focus and Follow-Through You May Be Just Spinning Your Wheels

Synchronicity – The Universe’s Way of Saying You Are Getting Warmer

Willpower Launches You On Your Journey – Good Habits Ensure You Will Arrive

Maryanne Pope is the author of A Widow’s Awakening, the playwright of Saviour and the screenwriter of God’s Country. Maryanne is the CEO of Pink Gazelle Productions and Chair of the John Petropoulos Memorial Fund. If you would like to receive her regular weekly blog, please sign up here.

published in A Widow's Awakening Book, Death, Grief, Life After Loss, Peace, Spirituality, Synchronicity by Maryanne | February 8, 2017 | 8 Comments

This is the third blog in the Life After Loss series:

Questioning Coincidence – Can Grief Awaken Our Capacity to Notice Connections Between Seemingly Unrelated Events?

“And don’t you know that God is Pooh Bear?”

– Jack Kerouac, On the Road

As I mentioned in last week’s Life After Loss blog, “To What ELSE Did This Widow Awaken To?” the heightened awareness that I experienced on the day of John’s death continued well past September 29th, 2000. In the days and weeks that followed, I began to perceive connections between what seemed like completely unrelated events – but made complete sense to me.

So I’m very curious to hear about other people’s experiences with “coincidences.”

Have you ever experienced an event that struck you as a bit odd at the time – and then something else happens later and you look back on that original event and can’t help but wonder if it was connected in some way?

Some call that a coincidence. But for me, in light of all that happened around the time John’s death, I do wonder if some of the seemingly random events were connected in some way?

John at Disneyland, Sept 22nd, 2000

Here’s an example of what I’m talking about:

On Friday September 22nd, 2000 John and I spent a spectacular day together at Disneyland. We’d attended a friend’s wedding in the morning and then had the rest of the day to run around Disneyland like a couple of over-sized kids. We had a blast!

When the time came to watch the fireworks, we were standing on a curb, waiting for the show to begin and we happened to notice an entire family – Mom, Dad, two kids and Grandma – all wearing matching yellow Winnie the Pooh jackets. They were adorable.

But then, just before the fireworks started, Pooh Grandma decided to walk right in front of us – and promptly collapsed, landing on her back. John, being a police officer, immediately knelt down to help her as I ran off into the crowd calling for help.

When I returned, John was still kneeling beside her, holding her hand and comforting her. She was breathing but not conscious. The paramedics arrived and as we were walking away, John looked at me said, “Wow, did that lady ever hit the back of her head hard.”

“Things like that,” I said, “aren’t supposed to happen at the Happiest Place on Earth.”

Then, exactly one week later – September 29th – back home again in Canada, John fell through an unmarked false ceiling into the lunchroom below, hit the back of his head and died of brain injuries.

A few days later, while tackling yet another devastatingly difficult task – choosing John’s burial spot at the cemetery – I found a place I thought was suitable and then closed my eyes a moment, just to get a feel for it. When I opened my eyes again, I turned my head to the right and there, four plots over, was a yellow Winnie the Pooh carved into a young woman’s headstone. I breathed in sharply, suddenly remembering the Pooh family at Disneyland.

Coincidence or not, I knew I’d found John’s final resting place.

Two months later, I went for lunch with Lil, the police officer John was partnered with the night of his fall. She shared with me the details of John’s last shift. When she got to the part about finding John on the lunchroom floor, she told me how the K-9 officer and John’s Sergeant and teammates had stayed with him until the paramedics arrived, comforting him as best they could.

“You need to know,” she said quietly, “that he was with people who loved him.”

I thought back again to Pooh Grandma at Disneyland and how John, a stranger, had been there to comfort her.

Then on the third anniversary of John’s death – September 29th, 2003 – Lil was working and went into a flower shop to buy flowers for John’s grave. Noticing Lil’s uniform, the woman behind the till commented, “My daughter is buried near a police officer.”

“Oh?” said Lil.

“I’m not sure if it’s the same officer,” said the woman, “but my daughter’s gravestone is the one with Winnie the Pooh on it.”

And that is in a city of more than a million people. If it’s just a coincidence, it’s a dandy.

In the summer of 2008, I had just finished the final rewrite of the manuscript for my book, A Widow’s Awakening. After dozens of rewrites, I knew it was where it needed to be. But just before I sent it off for publication, I happen to be reading Jack Kerouac’s classic, On the Road, and came across the line: “And don’t you know that God is Pooh Bear?”

I breathed in sharply. I knew I’d found the quote for the beginning of the book.

Now that a more than a decade and a half has passed since John’s death, when I think back to the Winnie the Pooh incidents, I realize that whether they were unrelated coincidences that my anxious mind needed to connect – so as to find meaning in the unacceptable – or whether they really were somehow connected doesn’t really matter.

Maybe what matters is that connecting the dots into some sort of meaningful pattern, real or imagined, helped me find peace during a very difficult time. Because that, I have learned, is a very important part of the grieving process.

What is your experience with coincidences?

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Maryanne Pope is the author of A Widow’s Awakening, the playwright of Saviour and the screenwriter of God’s Country. Maryanne is the CEO of Pink Gazelle Productions and Chair of the John Petropoulos Memorial Fund. If you would like to receive her regular weekly blog, please sign up here.