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The Gift of Tough Love

“Today, I live where I want to live, do the work I believe in, and travel where I wish to go. I have a freedom I never thought imaginable. But not a day goes by that I don’t remember the tremendous cost at which this freedom came. John gave me everything he could in life and what he couldn’t, he gave me in death. As difficult as it was for our relationship to end with an argument, his tough love words turned out to be a tremendous gift.”

– Maryanne Pope

Need a kick-in-the-pants to get you back on track to achieving YOUR dream? 

You might want to read this article of mine that was recently published in Love What Matters:

What would you do if the death of your soul mate meant the birth of your dream?

‘I am so scared,’ I said to my husband, John, while walking our dog, ‘of waking up 20 years from now and still not having finished writing a book.’

John stopped, turned to me and said, ‘You’re probably right about that, Maryanne…just as long as you know that will have been your choice.’

Ouch.

Then he leaned back his head and laughed. ‘Geez,’ he said, ‘I can be a real jerk.’

But in all fairness, we’d been together for 12 years by that point. That’s a long time to listen to someone talk about writing—yet doing very little in the way of actual writing. John’s dream had been to become a police officer. It had taken him eight years to get hired and I had watched him every step of the way as he worked towards his goal. Little did I know he’d also been teaching me the perseverance it took to achieve a dream…

Please click here to read entire article.

A huge heartfelt thank you to Eliza Murphy at Love What Matters for sharing our story!

Maryanne & John, 1994

Maryanne Pope is the author of A Widow’s Awakening, the playwright of Saviour and the screenwriter of God’s Country. Maryanne is CEO of Pink Gazelle Productions and Chair of the John Petropoulos Memorial Fund. If you would like to receive her weekly blog, please sign up here.

 

 

 

 

 

published in Achieving Your Dreams, Animals, Intuition, Souls, Spirituality by Maryanne | June 7, 2019 | 8 Comments

Message from Intuitive Massage: STAY ON PATH

 

Image by Alexas_Fotos from Pixabay

“Lynx is the guardian of the secrets and, more importantly, the knower of the secrets.”

– Totem & Power Animals, A-Z

Have you ever heard of a soul-massage?

I hadn’t. But when I was asked recently if I’d be interested in receiving a complimentary “soul-care intuitive massage” and writing a blog about my experience, I said sure!

I didn’t really know what I was in for…but I figured it was likely going to be a positive, relaxing experience. Well, I got a lot more than I bargained for. But when it comes to matters of the soul, this shouldn’t come as a surprise. Yet again, I was reminded there is so much more to this life – and to us – than meets the eye.

The massage was by Lisa Meikle, founder of Bodacious Living by Lisa, a beautiful boutique spa in Nanaimo, BC.

Lisa Meikle

Before our session began, I asked to use the bathroom and Lisa pointed it out to me. But when I went to slide open the pocket door to go inside, the door wouldn’t move. I told Lisa the door must be locked.

“It can’t be,” she said. “There’s no one in there to lock it.”

I tried the door again. Still locked. Lisa came over and tried the door herself.

“Well,” she said. “That’s odd.”

To which I smiled and said, “Maybe I’m being locked out…spiritually, I mean? Maybe I’m here today hoping to find answers that I’m not meant to know yet?”

After using the upstairs bathroom, we began our session. It was in two parts: the first part was a meditation and intuitive reading in a pretty little room – a sacred space – complete with candles and cushions. Tranquil, serene, peaceful…that’s what I felt the moment I pulled back the curtain and walked in.

I put my glass of water on the floor in front of a sculpture of the Divine Feminine and Masculine then sat down. Lisa asked me if, for the intuitive readings, would I prefer to pull cards from decks about goddesses, angels and/or animal spirit guides?

I shrugged. “Doesn’t matter to me.”

“Let’s do goddesses and spirit animals,” she suggested. “I don’t use the animal cards very often, but I am feeling that we need to with you.”

She placed several different decks of cards in front of me, to pull cards from, then left the room. I pulled a few cards (but didn’t turn them over) then just sat quietly, waiting.

When Lisa entered the room again, she walked over towards the door near me but didn’t see my water glass on the floor and kicked it. The glass shattered. It was a water glass…it should have broken into a few pieces at most. Not this glass – there were tiny shards everywhere.

“I am SO sorry!” I said. “I shouldn’t have put that on the floor where you couldn’t see it.”

“No, no, no,” she said. “It’s not your fault. I just…it’s just weird, that’s all.”

“Do you know what a broken glass can signify?” I asked. “Spiritually, I mean.”

She shook her head. “I don’t think so.”

“It’s supposed to be a portal to the other side,” I said. “When a glass breaks, apparently that means the spirit world is very near.”

“Ahh…” she said with a smile. “This is going to be a very interesting session.”

And it was. The next 90-minutes flew by and most of what Lisa read to me resonated strongly – either for personal or professional reasons. For the purpose of this blog, I will just share the information pertaining to the animal spirit card I pulled: Lynx.

Apparently, Lynx is the keeper of secrets. When Lynx is acting as our animal totem, we will receive guidance on which secrets to reveal – and when. Likewise, there are times when we are not meant to know something because it is not in our best interest.

After the intuitive reading and discussion, I had the actual massage and it was lovely! The purpose of having a massage right after chatting about intuitive matters is to help the ideas discussed really sink in…to our psyche.

I left Lisa’s spa feeling relaxed, focused and significantly calmer. I also felt tremendous clarity on a few matters I had been grappling with, mainly to do with my writing. Some questions – pertaining to my personal life – remained unanswered.

But my experience didn’t end there. The next day, I was driving in my car, flipping through radio stations and I heard a woman telling a story. The woman was First Nations and she was telling the interviewer about the time she was walking down a mountain trail and could sense an animal was watching her…and walking huge circles around her. She couldn’t see the animal nor hear it, but she knew it was there. The animal finally revealed itself to her, from a distance…and it was a lynx!

I stared at my car radio…kay, that is weird.

The woman then told the interviewer that after realizing a lynx had been circling her, she practically ran down the rest of the mountain. And at the very bottom, she found a sign that read: STAY ON THE PATH! DO NOT LEAVE THE PATH! THIS IS AVALANCHE COUNTRY.

I looked at my car radio again, even more weirded-out.

Then, I kid you not, the woman said to the interviewer: “I knew it was a very special experience I’d had but I didn’t know what the lesson or message was. I still don’t. I’m not even sure why I told you that story…on the radio yet!”

“That’s because the message is for ME!” I yelled at my car radio, like a lunatic.

And what, exactly, is the message?

That I need to smarten up and STAY ON MY PATH. I know what I am here to do – as a writer and as a person – but I need to stay super focused and do it. I can’t keep wandering off the path…and I know perfectly well what that path is. Lynx is always circling…there to help me (as a writer/storyteller) determine which secrets need to be kept and which ones need to be revealed – and when.

As for the answers to my personal questions? Well, just like the locked bathroom door…the answers will be revealed to me when the time is right time – and not a moment sooner. But in the meantime, I need to stay on the damn path!

Now…whether this was, in fact, my “Lynx spirit guide” communicating to me – through the radio (!) – doesn’t matter. What matters is that I got the message.

And at the risk of coming across as flakier than a Jamaican patty 🙂 I’m sharing it in this blog because it’s a good reminder to all of us to stay on our path. It is SO easy to get overcome by the waiting avalanche of distractions (such as the damn phone) that can keep us from focusing on – and appreciating – all that really matters in our lives.

For more information on Bodacious Living by Lisa, please click here.

If you’re in the Nanaimo area and are interested in receiving a soul-massage, I highly recommend it. Lisa also offers a wide variety of other spa services such as facials (I had one a few weeks after my soul-massage and it was delightful), pedicures and manicures. Lisa also has a great selection of skin-care products available.

Maryanne Pope is the author of A Widow’s Awakening, the playwright of Saviour and the screenwriter of God’s Country. Maryanne is CEO of Pink Gazelle Productions and Chair of the John Petropoulos Memorial Fund. If you would like to receive her regular weekly blog, please sign up here

Purge, Toss, Recycle, Reflect: Is This What Happens At 50?

 

“I hope you will remove the clutter that prevents more from coming into your life.”

– Suze Orman

Purge, Toss, Recycle

As I ever so slowly continue to unpack my 200+ boxes from the move, I am purging, tossing and recycling like a mad-woman…not crazy-mad (although some would argue that) but a MAD WOMAN. As in, I am furious with myself for accumulating so much damn stuff over the years, never mind holding on to it for so long.

Upon reflection, here’s what I’m noticing…

The actual decisions as to what to keep and what to toss are easy. As I enter my sixth decade on the planet, I know what I want, need and love. As Marie Kondo would say, I know what “sparks joy.”

Making the decision is simple. Executing the decision is fast (put the item in the recycling bin, the thrift store box, the garbage or place it where it needs to go in the house). Where I am struggling is dealing with the psychological fall-out of purging all the old files in my office.

For it’s not just papers I’m getting rid of. I am also having to let go of an awful lot of goals, hopes and expectations I had set for myself as a writer. Not that I’m dying…I’m sure I still have plenty of time left to write. But I AM having to face the fact fact that despite my best intentions, I have not achieved anywhere near what I had hoped to, in the writing-department, by this point in my life.

Perhaps even more disconcerting is the fact that it’s not like I’ve been sitting around for the past 20 years, thinking about writing instead of actually writing (like the old days, before John’s death when I was 32 and got the wake-up call of all wake-up calls about the importance of working towards our dreams instead of just talking about them).

No. I have been writing…like a mad-woman. And yet I have not accomplished anywhere near what I had set out to. This is an extremely uncomfortable conclusion to arrive at.

And yet, I think it’s healthy. As such, I am trying to embrace this discomfort (rather like hugging a cactus) instead of denying it or running from it.

The fact of the matter is: time IS passing very quickly. And I’m hoping that the sooner I can shed that which I no longer want or need (or is no longer serving me), the more time and energy I will have to focus on what really matters to me – the relationships, projects, causes & activities – in the years that remains.

Is this what happens in our 50’s? We reach some sort of…point of reckoning? 

I would love to hear your perspective!

In the meantime, here are some photos from the past few weeks of purging, tossing & recycling:

Boxes of stuff headed to the thrift store 🙂

 

My wood nymph dress from ballet, complete with adorable cat pin (this did NOT get tossed)

 

My Nan Nan’s telephone table fits perfectly in the foyer

 

A cozy nook by the fire a.k.a. the reflection chair

 

My assistant on yet another backyard break

And here comes the new…

Of course, now that I am shedding stuff left, right & center, this is creating a vacuum in which to receive new stuff – but believe me, I am being VERY selective as to what new items make their way into my home and life.

Case in point is a BBQ.

I had left my old, rusted, beast of a BBQ behind in Sidney so was going to have to get a new one. But I looked out my living room window a few weeks ago and low and behold, right across the street a BBQ had appeared on the curb overnight – with with a big FREE sign stuck to it.

I raced out my front door lickity-split, dashed across the street and pounced on that BBQ like a fat kid on a Smartie. I had just opened the lid to inspect inside when the home owner came out her front door and greeted me with a big smile.

“It’s older but it’s barely been used,” she said. “Can you use it?”

Beaming, I rolled that puppy back across the street, parked it in my backyard and have been using it almost daily every since 🙂

Slow Motion Multi-Tasking

Interestingly, shortly after beating myself up about not getting enough writing projects completed yet, I heard on the radio about a concept called “Slow Motion Multi-Tasking.” Apparently it is a creative process that many geniuses (such as Einstein) have utilized to their advantage over the years.

Basically slow motion multi-tasking refers to the practice of working for a significant period of time on a single project then putting it aside, working on another large project then putting that aside and returning to the first project with a fresh perspective. I have been doing this for years with multiple projects and I DO see the benefit. I just get freaked out sometimes that nothing will ever get finished and sent out into the world.

Apparently, however, I am in good company with this practice of slow motion multi tasking, so I shall continue to persevere with patience and passion!

But I reckon a little self-reflection now and then is not a bad thing.

Maryanne Pope is the author of A Widow’s Awakening, the playwright of Saviour and the screenwriter of God’s Country. Maryanne is CEO of Pink Gazelle Productions and Chair of the John Petropoulos Memorial Fund. If you would like to receive her regular weekly blog, please sign up here. As a thank you, you’ll receive a short but saucy e-book entitled, Dive into this Chicago Deep Dish – Ten Bite-Sized Steps for a Yummier Slice of Life.