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Shut Up, Stop Whining & Get a Life


 “Shut Up, Stop Whining & Get a Life” Book Kicks Butt


Shut Up and Quit Whining book cover

“The problem is never a lack of time. The problem is poorly defined priorities.”

– Larry Winget, Shut Up, Stop Whining and Get a Life

Okay, I know it has a rather rude title – but it is a VERY good book! Reading it certainly lit a fire under my butt when I read it last month.

And in my humble opinion, the best proof of the effectiveness of a self-help book is the change it actually leads to in one’s life. It is one thing to read self-help books; it is quite another to implement the advice offered. Reading is passive; change is active.

I’m not quite sure why the book, Shut Up, Stop Whining & Get A Life, by Larry Winget, resonated with me so strongly – amid the pre-Christmas hustle and bustle yet – but for whatever reason, the author’s candour seems to have…dislodged something in my psyche.

Here’s an example:

“What you think about, talk about and do something about is what comes about.”

– Larry Winget

Obvious, yes. But here’s the thing: when I stopped and really thought about it, I realized that when it came to an issue I supposedly care deeply about, such as climate change, I had to admit that I have been very strong in the ‘thinking about’ and ‘talking about’ part of the equation – but the ‘doing something about’ part, not so much.

And here’s a nugget that speaks to the higher purpose of our lives:

“People who understand that their purpose is service to others live lives of abundance. Those who do not just live their lives.”

– Larry Winget

I took nine pages of notes while reading Shut Up, Stop Whining and Get a Life. But I suppose this shouldn’t surprise me because it was during one of Brian Willis’ outstanding seminars that I heard about the book in the first place…and I took eighteen pages of notes in the last seminar of Brian’s I attended!

If you’re interested, this is the blog I wrote about that seminar: Wise Words for Weary Warriors.

Here’s another comment from Shut Up, Stop Whining and Get a Life that really resonated with me:

“When you stop letting things slide and start taking advantage of every moment then amazing things happen. The little stuff matters most. Everyone gets the big stuff. Very few take care of the little stuff.”

– Larry Winget

As you may have surmised, I am a chronic note-taker. I love writing stuff down. I have neat little piles of scrap paper stored at various strategic locations throughout my home, so that whenever an idea comes to mind (which is frighteningly often) for say, a blog topic, I can quickly jot it down it so I won’t forget. Then I file it away in it’s respective folder and carry on with my day.

Now the astute reader may recognize a wee bit of a problem brewing with this system. Yes, that’s right: I have enough brilliant ideas scrawled on scraps of paper to sink a battleship. I have a filing system that is so elaborate, the White House would be impressed.

Idea-generating and record-keeping are not a problem; getting my ideas to market in a timely manner is where I struggle.

I tend to spend so much time on the big stuff – which for me is my larger writing projects such as books, screenplays and play scripts – that I’ve missed countless opportunities to write and post smaller, informative blogs that will help me reach the very audience I wish to eventually reach with my larger projects.

Although this is due to a variety of excuses – ignorance, lousy time management, disorganization, procrastination, poor prioritizing and so on – in the end it doesn’t matter. What matters is that I identify the problem and figure out a way to correct it.

So last month, I did just that. I took Larry’s suggestion and starting to take better care of the little work-stuff by making the time to write more short, useful blogs on all sorts of different subject matters – and post them and get them sent out through social media.

What a concept!

Of course, Larry is right: amazing things are starting to happen. I am reaching way more readers and starting to form strategic partnerships with like-minded people.

“The problem is never that we do not know, it is always that we do not DO what we already know.”

– Larry Winget

If I didn’t think I would ever actually use the hundreds of blog ideas I so diligently wrote down on slips of paper, then I highly doubt I would’ve written them down in the first place. I just didn’t know how to start using them…I was overwhelmed. And rightly so. Because I can’t write fifty blogs in a week, so as to make a dent in the pile. But I can write one – or two 🙂

That’s the coolest thing about a book such as Shut Up, Stop Whining and Get a Life: it is chock full of suggestions that I already know are true – I just needed a kick-in-the pants friendly reminder.

In closing, I will leave you with this quote from the book:

“Do what you say you are going to do, when you said you were going to do it, in the way you said you were going to do it. No excuses.”

– Larry Winget

I have thought a great deal about this over the past month – and I guess what it boils down to is being impeccable with our word…living up to our promises. Sometimes this is difficult to do because circumstances change and unexpected things happen. But I do think if we can strive to do our very best to honour the commitments we have made – both to ourselves and to others – it really does help make for a life of integrity.

Maryanne Pope is the CEO of Pink Gazelle Productions and Chair of the John Petropoulos Memorial Fund. She is the author of A Widow’s Awakening and the playwright of Saviour. If you would like to receive her weekly blog, please sign up here.

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