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Impossible Dreams – Bringing Your Vision to Life

 

 

“It always seems impossible until it is done.”

– Nelson Mandela

I was at a business networking event in Victoria recently and heard an excellent speaker deliver a presentation that really resonated with me, so I thought I’d share a bit about that in this blog.

The event was hosted by the Westshore Women’s Business Network and the speaker was Barbara Edie, author of Creating the Impossible; What It Takes to Bring Your Vision to Life.

Barbara’s presentation was about the importance of achieving our dreams – and since I am smack in the middle of writing my own book on that same subject matter (Barrier Removed; A Tough Love Guide to Achieving Your Dreams,) I was very interested to hear what she had to say 🙂

Here are a few highlights from Barbara’s presentation:

In regards to why some people DON’T tend to pursue their dreams, comfort plays a key role. “Safe and secure,” Barbara said, “is often the reason people stay where they are and don’t make a change.”

This reminded me of one of my favourite quotes by Anais Nin. A previous owner had written it on the side of the garden shed in my yard in Sidney – and when I saw it, I knew it was another little sign this was the home for me:

Barbara also spoke about how sometimes people don’t pursue their dreams because on some level, they think they are impossible to achieve – so why bother?

“But the only time dreams become impossible,” said Edie, “is in your thinking.”

Or as Nelson Mandela put it: “It always seems impossible until it is done.”

As to HOW to achieve our dreams – bring your vision to life – Barbara talked about the importance of FOCUS.

“Focus is everything,” she said. “All powerful creators begin with the end in mind.”

And when you know what your vision is and you have the focus to take the necessary steps to achieve it, another useful technique is to take the time to tap into the positive emotion that you will feel when you do achieve it. If you can visualize ahead of time that positive emotion associated with your achievement, this will help bring about the actual achievement faster.

For me, this idea opened up a smelly little can of worms. I had a huge aha! moment. When I think of the end result of achieving my dreams – say when one of my screenplays is seen as a movie on the big screen – I don’t feel positive emotion. I feel all sorts of negative emotions: fear, anxiety, nervousness. What if it sucks? What if it is a failure? What if everybody hates it – or people are pissed off at me?

Or what if it IS a hit…how will I handle all the extra work and responsibilities and change that come with significant success? I can scarcely handle my life now (well, okay, it’s really just the unanswered e-mail that is out of control).

For me, writing itself is my passion. The process of writing is my happy place – not the finished product…which likely explains why so many of my big writing projects are taking so damn long to get produced!

But of course now that I am AWARE of this, things will change…because I will change 🙂

Barbara also spoke about the integral role that intuition can play in helping guide us. “When we start to tap into our soul’s magic,” she explained, “things can start to happen quite quickly.”

This is certainly what I am experiencing!

“The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honours the servant and has forgotten the gift.”

– Albert Einstein

Barbara reiterated the importance of paying attention to the things that are going on around us – and in us. If we get a feeling to call a friend or reach out to someone, to do it…because we just never know the higher reason. Perhaps it is something they really need from us – or it may lead to an opportunity that is just waiting to present itself.

Barbara called this the FYI principle: Follow Your Intuition.

And why do we need to follow our intuition?

“Because,” she said, “Intuition is how your heart communicates with your higher self.”

Love it!

“And when you act,” she continued, “you will be amazed at the things that come together – because the Universe responds to action.”

The key word here, of course, is ACTION. 

After her presentation, I went up to Barbara and introduced myself. I thanked her and explained that much of what she’d said had really clicked with me. Then, for some reason, we got chatting about how it’s not the number of years we live that matters as much as how we live the years we do have.

“Even when someone does make it to 90,” she said, “that doesn’t necessarily mean they have really lived 90 years. Rather, they may have just pretty much lived the same year over and over again, 90 times.”

Wow, eh?

To sum up, here are Barbara’s 3 tips to help bring your vision to life: 

1.) Focus!

2.) Once you have your vision, tap into the positive emotion you will feel when you achieve your dream

3.) Follow Your Intuition

Related blogs by Maryanne

Without Focus and Follow-Through You May Be Just Spinning Your Wheels

Synchronicity – The Universe’s Way of Saying You Are Getting Warmer

Willpower Launches You On Your Journey – Good Habits Ensure You Will Arrive

Maryanne Pope is the author of A Widow’s Awakening, the playwright of Saviour and the screenwriter of God’s Country. Maryanne is the CEO of Pink Gazelle Productions and Chair of the John Petropoulos Memorial Fund. If you would like to receive her regular weekly blog, please sign up here.

published in A Widow's Awakening Book, Death, Grief, Life After Loss, Peace, Spirituality, Synchronicity by Maryanne | February 8, 2017 | 8 Comments

This is the third blog in the Life After Loss series:

Questioning Coincidence – Can Grief Awaken Our Capacity to Notice Connections Between Seemingly Unrelated Events?

“And don’t you know that God is Pooh Bear?”

– Jack Kerouac, On the Road

As I mentioned in last week’s Life After Loss blog, “To What ELSE Did This Widow Awaken To?” the heightened awareness that I experienced on the day of John’s death continued well past September 29th, 2000. In the days and weeks that followed, I began to perceive connections between what seemed like completely unrelated events – but made complete sense to me.

So I’m very curious to hear about other people’s experiences with “coincidences.”

Have you ever experienced an event that struck you as a bit odd at the time – and then something else happens later and you look back on that original event and can’t help but wonder if it was connected in some way?

Some call that a coincidence. But for me, in light of all that happened around the time John’s death, I do wonder if some of the seemingly random events were connected in some way?

John at Disneyland, Sept 22nd, 2000

Here’s an example of what I’m talking about:

On Friday September 22nd, 2000 John and I spent a spectacular day together at Disneyland. We’d attended a friend’s wedding in the morning and then had the rest of the day to run around Disneyland like a couple of over-sized kids. We had a blast!

When the time came to watch the fireworks, we were standing on a curb, waiting for the show to begin and we happened to notice an entire family – Mom, Dad, two kids and Grandma – all wearing matching yellow Winnie the Pooh jackets. They were adorable.

But then, just before the fireworks started, Pooh Grandma decided to walk right in front of us – and promptly collapsed, landing on her back. John, being a police officer, immediately knelt down to help her as I ran off into the crowd calling for help.

When I returned, John was still kneeling beside her, holding her hand and comforting her. She was breathing but not conscious. The paramedics arrived and as we were walking away, John looked at me said, “Wow, did that lady ever hit the back of her head hard.”

“Things like that,” I said, “aren’t supposed to happen at the Happiest Place on Earth.”

Then, exactly one week later – September 29th – back home again in Canada, John fell through an unmarked false ceiling into the lunchroom below, hit the back of his head and died of brain injuries.

A few days later, while tackling yet another devastatingly difficult task – choosing John’s burial spot at the cemetery – I found a place I thought was suitable and then closed my eyes a moment, just to get a feel for it. When I opened my eyes again, I turned my head to the right and there, four plots over, was a yellow Winnie the Pooh carved into a young woman’s headstone. I breathed in sharply, suddenly remembering the Pooh family at Disneyland.

Coincidence or not, I knew I’d found John’s final resting place.

Two months later, I went for lunch with Lil, the police officer John was partnered with the night of his fall. She shared with me the details of John’s last shift. When she got to the part about finding John on the lunchroom floor, she told me how the K-9 officer and John’s Sergeant and teammates had stayed with him until the paramedics arrived, comforting him as best they could.

“You need to know,” she said quietly, “that he was with people who loved him.”

I thought back again to Pooh Grandma at Disneyland and how John, a stranger, had been there to comfort her.

Then on the third anniversary of John’s death – September 29th, 2003 – Lil was working and went into a flower shop to buy flowers for John’s grave. Noticing Lil’s uniform, the woman behind the till commented, “My daughter is buried near a police officer.”

“Oh?” said Lil.

“I’m not sure if it’s the same officer,” said the woman, “but my daughter’s gravestone is the one with Winnie the Pooh on it.”

And that is in a city of more than a million people. If it’s just a coincidence, it’s a dandy.

In the summer of 2008, I had just finished the final rewrite of the manuscript for my book, A Widow’s Awakening. After dozens of rewrites, I knew it was where it needed to be. But just before I sent it off for publication, I happen to be reading Jack Kerouac’s classic, On the Road, and came across the line: “And don’t you know that God is Pooh Bear?”

I breathed in sharply. I knew I’d found the quote for the beginning of the book.

Now that a more than a decade and a half has passed since John’s death, when I think back to the Winnie the Pooh incidents, I realize that whether they were unrelated coincidences that my anxious mind needed to connect – so as to find meaning in the unacceptable – or whether they really were somehow connected doesn’t really matter.

Maybe what matters is that connecting the dots into some sort of meaningful pattern, real or imagined, helped me find peace during a very difficult time. Because that, I have learned, is a very important part of the grieving process.

What is your experience with coincidences?

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Maryanne Pope is the author of A Widow’s Awakening, the playwright of Saviour and the screenwriter of God’s Country. Maryanne is the CEO of Pink Gazelle Productions and Chair of the John Petropoulos Memorial Fund. If you would like to receive her regular weekly blog, please sign up here.

published in Inspiration, Saviour Play, Souls, Synchronicity by Maryanne | January 3, 2017 | 2 Comments

Happy New Year!

I hope you had a delightful holiday season and I wish you all the very best in 2017!!

I had a wonderful Christmastime…literally. The days were wonder-full. Enough so, that I thought I’d share a few of the incidents that happened, as they certainly lend themselves to the possibility of synchronicity.

You are probably familiar with the term “synchronicity” but if not, it is a concept first explained by psychoanalyst, Carl Jung (1875-1961), and refers to events that are “meaningful coincidences” i.e. they occur with no causal relationship yet seem to be meaningfully related.

I have experienced an awful lot of meaningful coincidences in my life, especially around the time of my husband, John’s, death in 2000 – particularly the events that occurred at Disneyland exactly one week before he died.

Mind you, I was probably more open to the strangeness of the seemingly unrelated – yet somehow connected – events because of the shock of his sudden death and the immense impact that had on my heart and soul.

And yet:

“Synchronicity is an ever present reality for those who have the eyes to see it.”

– Carl Jung

In her beautiful essay, Synchronicity and the Soul, Nancy Seifer explains how “Jung recognized that synchronicity…had the effect of breaking through the “rationalistic shell” of the modern scientific mind. It is a form of coincidence powerful enough to shatter the notion that material science has discovered all there is to know about the universe. To the person having an experience of synchronicity, the realization dawns that a mysterious force is at play in the world—a kind of “cosmic clock” whose gears operate on a more subtle plane.”

But to what end? Are we to be taking something from these synchronistic experiences?

I think so. So does Seifer:

“As the soul awakens, it turns to the “task” of uncovering the meaning of life experiences, attempting to discern what each new circumstance may be trying to teach us. The discernment of meaning is integral to advancement in this schoolhouse of life. Once the needed learning has been extracted from difficult lessons, they no longer have to be repeated. By observing synchronicities and trying to fathom their meaning, we are drawn into the world of the soul, thus accelerating our progress on the path of transformation.”

– Nancy Seifer, When the Soul Awakens.org

Here are 3 synchronistic events that happened to me over the Christmas season – and what I am choosing to learn from them:

#1) My Sexy Coast Guard – or rather his Mother

Last spring, I met a really nice woman on the beach when we were both walking our dogs. We got chatting and lo and behold, she has a son about my age who is single and perhaps I might like to meet him?

“YES!” I say, perhaps a little too enthusiastically. So I give her my number and voila! Sexy Coast Guard guy and I meet for a date. Then another. Then another. Then…nothing. Silence.

A few months later, I run into his Mom on the beach again. She apologizes for his behaviour, says he has met someone else – and then asks me if I will stop by their place for a drink on Christmas Eve?

“Well,” I say, as politely as possible, “that might be a bit uncomfortable.”

End of story. So I think.

A few weeks later, I send Coast Guard guy a text – to clear the air between us. He texts back, apologizing for his actions but encourages me to go to his Mom’s place for Christmas Eve. He won’t be there anyway.

But I like my own quiet Christmas Eve. Why would I go to HIS Mom’s place?

Then wouldn’t you know it, the day before Christmas Eve, I run into his Mom AGAIN.

“Please come by my place on Christmas Eve,” she says.

I throw up my hands to the Universe. Fine, I’ll pop by for an hour.

I stay for three hours, have lots of fun, drink too much, leave my car there and teeter home in my high heeled boots. And when I go to pick up my car on Christmas Day, guess who’s there?

And let me tell ya, Coast Guard Guy was looking really yummy – and no girlfriend in sight. After not one but two hugs, off I saunter to the rest of my Christmas Day festivities.

Two days later I text him. No response.

And just like that, I find myself back – AGAIN – in the frustratingly familiar situation of being smitten with men who are clearly not interested in me…and choose silence to communicate this.

I won’t tell you how many times this has happened with different guys over the years but let’s just say I feel like I’m in the movie, Groundhog Day. Surely at some point, I will learn whatever lessons need to be learned and be able to move on to a happy, healthy intimate relationship.

In the meantime, I think I shall write a book about my romantic escapades…maybe I’ll learn a thing or two.

#2) La Roux Patesserie

This story has a happier ending!

My good friend and colleague, Sarah, gave me a ONE HUNDRED DOLLAR gift card to a Victoria café called La Roux Patesserie. It’s one of my favourite haunts.

So, over the holidays, I decided to go to La Roux while my car was in the shop. I woke up that morning, thinking that I should text my friend, Heathe, to see if her gang would like to meet me there for a cappuccino and chocolate croissant. But then I thought to myself, “Nah…they’re probably busy.” So I didn’t.

Fast forward a few hours and there I am, at La Roux Patesserie, eating and drinking my way through the gift card when I hear a tap on the glass. I look up and there, standing on the sidewalk, are my peeps: Heathe, Dave, Taylor, Paige & Ella.

I must say I wasn’t one bit surprised to see them. We spent the rest of the day together and had loads of fun!

Moral of the story: when paths are meant to cross, they cross.

#3) Saviour and a playwriting contest about God & Faith

This, too, has a happy ending – well, the story. Not the play 🙁

As you may recall, I have been writing a play script entitled “Saviour” for, well over a decade now. Sigh. Anyway, I knew the most recent version of the script needed some tweaks before I could move forward with it – but I hadn’t got around to making those revisions…for two years!

But then, a couple of days after Christmas, my graphic designer, Neil, sent me an e-mail with information on a playwriting contest that was specifically looking for scripts that explore God and faith. Hello…perfect fit for Saviour! The catch? The deadline was Dec 31st.

So I tossed my Bailey’s bottle and chocolate orange to the side, sat my butt in the chair for two days, got the Saviour script where it needed to be and submitted it to the contest. It felt great!

Lesson learned: whether or not I win the contest is far less important than the fact that I got the next Saviour rewrite DONE.

And here’s the really cool thing: the Saviour play is about synchronicity. I kid you not.

 “For many awakening souls, the phenomenon of synchronicity provides a direct and unmistakable encounter with the mysteries of the spiritual realm. Because the experience has particular meaning to the individual involved, it has the power to open a portal to “the world of meaning,” which is the world of the soul in the wisdom teachings.”

– Nancy Seifer, When the Soul Awakens.org

Personally, I suspect synchronicity is the Universe’s way of letting us know we are getting warmer…just wish it was Coast Guard warm 🙂

What are your thoughts on synchronicity? Do you think there is sometimes a higher meaning behind seemingly coincidental events?

Related Blogs by Maryanne

Coincidence or Connection – How Grief Can Awaken Our Capacity to Notice Connections Between Seemingly Unrelated Events

About the Saviour Play…

The Awakening – Tragedy as a Wake-Up Call

Maryanne Pope is the author of A Widow’s Awakening, the playwright of Saviour and the screenwriter of God’s Country. Maryanne is the CEO of Pink Gazelle Productions and the Chair of the John Petropoulos Memorial Fund. If you would like to receive her weekly blog, please sign up here.