Archive for Self Worth Posts

You Got This – Frocking Off What’s Holding Us Back



“A frock is simply an attitude or limiting belief that is holding you back. All frocks are based in fear.”

– Jo Dibblee, Founder of Frock Off Inc

Frocking Off is Hard to Do…Actually, Not Really

Remember that old song, “Breakin’ Up is Hard To Do,” by Neil Sedaka?

“Don’t you leave my heart in misery
‘Cause if you go, then I’ll be blue
Breakin’ up is hard to do”

Sometimes it’s not just a person we may need to break up with. Sometimes it can be a limiting belief or negative attitude that REALLY needs to be given the old heave-ho.

But guess what? When we do finally muster up the courage to identify, and then shed, a ridiculous (but oh-so-deeply-rooted) belief or lousy attitude that is no longer serving us, our heart is NOT left in misery. Rather, our heart is lighter…leaving us more free to soar without our beloved frocks of armour holding us down.

On Sept 15 & 16 I attended the Best Kept Secret to Success in Life, Love and Business event in Sylvan Lake, Alberta – a “Frock-olicious Life Series Event.” I was one of the speakers.

I spoke about courage…about not waiting for tragedy to wake us up to the importance of achieving our dreams, about having the courage to make difficult decisions when we know we need to make them, about how courage can be contagious so although we may not always be able to tap into our own courage, we can borrow from the courage of others to help us do what we need to do.

Throughout the jam-packed two days, we all had the opportunity to learn an awful lot of valuable information – about business, life and love – and connect with a roomful of brilliant women.

I took THIRTY pages of handwritten notes!

For today’s blog, I was going to share a few key messages from all the speakers – but there is too much fabulous content to share, so I’m breaking it down into several bite-sized blogs.

To start off, here are some sage insights from the first speaker, Jo Dibblee, the Founder of Frock Off Inc and author of the book, Frock Off; Living Undisguised:

“I am the lowest common denominator in all my relationships.”

“In business, everything is do-able but you have to have a plan.”

“Take what you need and leave the rest.”

“If you don’t have the mindset of success, it is extremely difficult to succeed.”

“We cannot solve the problem we helped create.”

“Stand ON your story – not in it.”

“The things you don’t need, leave them behind.”

“We have to determine whether we are committed or merely interested.”

“Know your WHY.”

“Every step leads you to where you are supposed to be.”

“May your life speak more loudly than your lips.”

“If something is bothering us, we have to deal with it because if we don’t, it spills over onto everything else in our lives. We need to get the issue out of our head, put it on the table and deal with it.”

“A frock is simply an attitude or limiting belief that is holding you back. All frocks are based in fear.”

“A frock can be based on the need to conform, or they can have to do with expectations placed upon ourselves or by others, or have to do with our worthiness.”

“What frock do YOU need to shed?”

This gem was from Jo’s young grandson: “Are we just shadows waiting to be seen?”

And the comment that resonated the most with me…

“You got this.”

Simple, yes. But a powerful reminder that whatever it is we are struggling with – in life, love and/or business – we CAN deal with it…when we find the courage to face it.

Next Best Kept Secret to Success Event coming up in Phoenix, AZ in October

If you are interested in attending a Best Kept Secret to Success Event, the next one is in PHOENIX on Oct 13 & 14. If you are an entrepreneur or thinking about starting your own business OR simply ready to make a significant change in your life, I highly recommend attending a BKSS event.

Related Blogs by Maryanne

Frock Off Book is Fantastic!

Courage is Contagious – the Power of Story

Maryanne Pope is the author of A Widow’s Awakening, the playwright of Saviour and the screenwriter of God’s Country. Maryanne is CEO of Pink Gazelle Productions and Chair of the John Petropoulos Memorial Fund. If you would like to receive her regular weekly blog, please sign up here. As a thank you, you’ll receive a short but saucy e-book entitled, Dive into this Chicago Deep Dish – Ten Bite-Sized Steps for a Yummier Slice of Life

published in Achieving Your Dreams, Dreams/Goals, Inspiration, Self Esteem, Self Worth by Maryanne | September 6, 2017 | No Comment

Why Pink Gazelle?


“To be a pink gazelle is to believe in one’s self, abilities, dreams and capacity to contribute in whatever way is authentic for her.”

– Maryanne Pope, Pink Gazelle Productions Inc

What is Pink Gazelle Productions Inc?

PGP is a Canadian company that was started by Maryanne Pope in 2002. We create literary, theatrical and cinematic works that strive to challenge, enrich and inspire the lives of both artist and audience.

Our tagline is Authentic Lives; Authentic Works.

What We Do

We tell stories that serve to entertain, educate and empower people to effect positive change in themselves and the world around them.

How We Do It

From books, blogsplays and films to presentations, e-mail campaigns, greeting cards and inspirational quote card sets, we create and share meaningful stories that encourage and empower individuals to live with passion, purpose and perseverance.

WHY We Do What We Do

Our goal is to inspire people to reach their highest potential – because inspired people are positive, proactive people who are helping bring about change for the better in themselves, their lives and their communities.

“There are only two ways to influence human behaviour; you can manipulate it or you can inspire it.”

– Simon Sinek, Start With Why

Why The Name “Pink Gazelle Productions”?

A gazelle is a medium-sized antelope found mainly in Africa and Asia. Known for their speed, grace and alertness, gazelles are beautiful animals that tend to be on the move. In Morocco, “gazelle” is a term of endearment for a woman, which Maryanne discovered while traveling there with a friend in 2001.

A pink gazelle, on the other hoof, is a positive way for a woman to perceive herself. To be a pink gazelle is to believe in one’s self, creative capabilities and capacity to contribute to society – in whatever way is authentic for her.

Being a pink gazelle means having the courage to pursue one’s dreams with passion, purpose and integrity while developing (sigh) the patience to go through the process. A pink gazelle has a strong sense of self-worth and has learned, often the hard way, the importance of achieving her dreams and standing up for what she believes in…because if she doesn’t, who will?

“It is only when you make the process your goal that the big dream can follow.”

– Oprah Winfrey

#GoPinkGazelle on Twitter

Join our herd on Twitter by using the hashtag #gopinkgazelle to cheer each other on!

Our Twitter Handle: @MaryannePope

Related Blogs

What is a Pink Gazelle?

About Maryanne Pope

Maryanne Pope is the author of A Widow’s Awakening, the playwright of Saviour and the screenwriter of God’s Country. She is the executive producer of the documentary, Whatever Floats Your Boat…Perspectives on Motherhood. Maryanne is the CEO of Pink Gazelle Productions and Chair of the John Petropoulos Memorial Fund. If you would like to receive her regular weekly blog, please sign up here.


Searching for Something More


Something More book cover

“When we talk about Something More, it isn’t wanting a fancier car, a bigger house, or a designer dress. Something More is what we need to fill our spiritual hunger.”

– Sarah Ban Breathnach, Something More

What have you been reading this summer?

I’ve been reading, yet again, one of my all-time favourite books: Something More; Excavating Your Authentic Self by Sarah Ban Breathnach (author of Simple Abundance; A Daybook of Comfort and Joy).

Something More is based on the premise that “the authentic self is the soul made visible.”

Alas, as is often the way with matters pertaining to the soul, it’s a book I find to be more unsettling than encouraging – but in a good way. Its candour cuts to the core of some pretty deep truths about women’s lives, particularly about the danger of…settling.

“Our choices can be conscious or unconscious,” explains Ban Breathnach in Something More. “Conscious choice is creative, the heart of authenticity.”

But when we fall asleep at the wheel of our own lives (and I suspect it happens to most of us at some point) and begin making small but significant decisions on auto-pilot – that serve to keep the peace but aren’t necessarily for our own highest good – we can run into trouble.

So how do we prevent this from happening? By pulling over to the side of the road, of course, and taking a time-out. Or put another way:

“Be still, woman, and know who you are.”

Sarah Ban Breathnach, Something More

But many women don’t STOP because a) they lead very busy lives (and likely manage several other people’s busy lives, as well) and; b) to stop means to think and that could lead to reflecting and that could lead to change and that could lead to all sorts of uncomfortable things for all sorts of people. So, on some level, it seems wiser to keep moving – and the status quo intact.

But here’s one problem, among many, with that strategy: “When we lose touch with our true natures,” explains Ban Breathnach, “we become unable to create boundaries that protect, nurture, and sustain our self-worth.”

Been there, done that, got the (very expensive) t-shirt.

So how do we know when we’ve veered off track…away from our soul’s authentic path? By how we feel.

“The soul is here for it’s own joy.”

– Rumi

“Many of us confuse happiness and joy,” writes Ban Breathnach. “Happiness is often triggered by external events, events we usually have no control over – you get the promotion, he loves you back, they approve your mortgage application. Happiness camouflages a lot of fears. But joy is the absence of fear. Joy is your soul’s knowledge that if you don’t get the promotion, keep the relationship, or buy the house, it’s because you weren’t meant to. You’re meant to have something better, something richer, something more.”

If you know, deep down, that you need to make some sort of significant change in your life, here is a passage from Something More that you might find of help:

“The medical-intuitive Caroline Myss…tells us that when we know we are supposed to move on or out of a situation that is stunting our soul growth and we consciously refuse to do so because the uncharted terror of choice and change scares us, a celestial clock starts ticking. “If you’re getting directions, ‘Move on with your life, let go of something,’ then do it. Have the courage to do it. This is the way it is. When you get guidance to let go of something, it’s sort of like a time warning that says, ‘You have ten days left. After that, your angel’s going to do it.’ So the desire to hold on is not going to stop the process of change.”

If I had read that when I was 17, I would have thought it ridiculous. But now that I’ve experienced life on this planet for almost 50 years, I know that a mere desire to keep things the way they are is NOT going to stop the process of change. Time and time again, I have found this to be true in my own life.

However, I do think we get plenty of sweet – and not-so-sweet but still small enough to be ignored – little nudges from the Universe to help us make the changes we know we need to make, in ourselves and/or our lives, before A Big One (health scare, loss of a loved one, financial crisis, divorce, etc) potentially arrives in all its heartbreaking, life-altering, soul-waking splendour 🙁

But here’s the good news:

“If you can learn from hard knocks, you can learn from soft touches.”

– Carolyn Kenmore

Thankfully, I have found this to be equally true 🙂

Related blogs by Maryanne:

Cultivating an Attitude of Gratitude

Back Off Baby – You Just Crossed My Boundary

The Danger of Comfort – Lessons from the Cubicle

Maryanne Pope is the author of A Widow’s Awakening, the playwright of Saviour and the screenwriter of God’s Country. Maryanne is the CEO of Pink Gazelle Productions and the Chair of the John Petropoulos Memorial Fund. If you would like to receive her weekly blog, please sign up here.