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You Got This – Frocking Off What’s Holding Us Back

 

 

“A frock is simply an attitude or limiting belief that is holding you back. All frocks are based in fear.”

– Jo Dibblee, Founder of Frock Off Inc

Frocking Off is Hard to Do…Actually, Not Really

Remember that old song, “Breakin’ Up is Hard To Do,” by Neil Sedaka?

“Don’t you leave my heart in misery
‘Cause if you go, then I’ll be blue
Breakin’ up is hard to do”

Sometimes it’s not just a person we may need to break up with. Sometimes it can be a limiting belief or negative attitude that REALLY needs to be given the old heave-ho.

But guess what? When we do finally muster up the courage to identify, and then shed, a ridiculous (but oh-so-deeply-rooted) belief or lousy attitude that is no longer serving us, our heart is NOT left in misery. Rather, our heart is lighter…leaving us more free to soar without our beloved frocks of armour holding us down.

On Sept 15 & 16 I attended the Best Kept Secret to Success in Life, Love and Business event in Sylvan Lake, Alberta – a “Frock-olicious Life Series Event.” I was one of the speakers.

I spoke about courage…about not waiting for tragedy to wake us up to the importance of achieving our dreams, about having the courage to make difficult decisions when we know we need to make them, about how courage can be contagious so although we may not always be able to tap into our own courage, we can borrow from the courage of others to help us do what we need to do.

Throughout the jam-packed two days, we all had the opportunity to learn an awful lot of valuable information – about business, life and love – and connect with a roomful of brilliant women.

I took THIRTY pages of handwritten notes!

For today’s blog, I was going to share a few key messages from all the speakers – but there is too much fabulous content to share, so I’m breaking it down into several bite-sized blogs.

To start off, here are some sage insights from the first speaker, Jo Dibblee, the Founder of Frock Off Inc and author of the book, Frock Off; Living Undisguised:

“I am the lowest common denominator in all my relationships.”

“In business, everything is do-able but you have to have a plan.”

“Take what you need and leave the rest.”

“If you don’t have the mindset of success, it is extremely difficult to succeed.”

“We cannot solve the problem we helped create.”

“Stand ON your story – not in it.”

“The things you don’t need, leave them behind.”

“We have to determine whether we are committed or merely interested.”

“Know your WHY.”

“Every step leads you to where you are supposed to be.”

“May your life speak more loudly than your lips.”

“If something is bothering us, we have to deal with it because if we don’t, it spills over onto everything else in our lives. We need to get the issue out of our head, put it on the table and deal with it.”

“A frock is simply an attitude or limiting belief that is holding you back. All frocks are based in fear.”

“A frock can be based on the need to conform, or they can have to do with expectations placed upon ourselves or by others, or have to do with our worthiness.”

“What frock do YOU need to shed?”

This gem was from Jo’s young grandson: “Are we just shadows waiting to be seen?”

And the comment that resonated the most with me…

“You got this.”

Simple, yes. But a powerful reminder that whatever it is we are struggling with – in life, love and/or business – we CAN deal with it…when we find the courage to face it.

Next Best Kept Secret to Success Event coming up in Phoenix, AZ in October

If you are interested in attending a Best Kept Secret to Success Event, the next one is in PHOENIX on Oct 13 & 14. If you are an entrepreneur or thinking about starting your own business OR simply ready to make a significant change in your life, I highly recommend attending a BKSS event.

Related Blogs by Maryanne

Frock Off Book is Fantastic!

Courage is Contagious – the Power of Story

Maryanne Pope is the author of A Widow’s Awakening, the playwright of Saviour and the screenwriter of God’s Country. Maryanne is CEO of Pink Gazelle Productions and Chair of the John Petropoulos Memorial Fund. If you would like to receive her regular weekly blog, please sign up here. As a thank you, you’ll receive a short but saucy e-book entitled, Dive into this Chicago Deep Dish – Ten Bite-Sized Steps for a Yummier Slice of Life

published in Courage, Inspiration, Laughter by Maryanne | July 19, 2017 | 2 Comments

Laughing at Ourselves – Boudoir Photo Shoot, Thong Faux Pas & the Pub Crawl Sprawl

 

MA & Roxanne, East Sooke Regional Park

“You don’t stop laughing because you grow old. You grow old because you stop laughing.”

– Michael Pritchard

The above photo of me and Roxanne Low, a professional photographer, was taken a couple of days ago – after our gut-busting photo shoot. Roxanne specializes in boudoir photos, so that’s exactly what we were doing in East Sooke Regional Park 🙂

And let me tell you, I have not laughed that hard in a long time!

The afternoon started with us non-chalantly walking out of the parking lot and wandering into the wilderness…carrying a stepladder, fluffy white duvet and a rather large suitcase (did we ever get some strange looks!) and then for one reason or another, the day just got more and more comical from there.

I’ll write more about this hilarious, yet highly productive, afternoon photo session in a future blog.

For now, however, I would like to share with you this funny story I read recently in O Magazine, that ties in beautifully with the “lingerie/laughing at ourselves” theme:

“Recently, my pants split right down the back without my knowledge, and I walked around a friend’s house for hours, mingling and refreshing my drink, before somebody said, “Oh, honey, is that your butt?” It was indeed my butt! I was wearing a brick red thong and a maxi pad that peeked out of it like a duck bill. Truly, it couldn’t have been worse. And still I laughed. I was among friends. It would be a funny story later. The pants were getting old anyway. As was worrying about things that don’t merit worry. Things that make me perfectly human.”

– Katie Arnold-Ratliff, O Magazine, August 2017

Can you imagine?!

And yet…on the topic of underwear (or lack there-of, as the case may be), I have a rather embarrassing story of my own. I shared it in my book, A Widow’s Awakening…a tiny bit of much-needed humour amidst a sea of sorrow. I’ll share it again now.

The story is so legendary, it even has a title, “The Pub Crawl Sprawl”: 

I was 28 at the time of the incident. John and I had been married for about 6 months and were living in an apartment in Calgary. He was out at the bar with his friends. I had been out on a pub crawl with my friends and had arrived back at the apartment before him. I’d crawled into bed but when I heard him and his buddies coming down the hallway, for some reason I jumped out of bed, opened the front door and then turned back inside and was heading back to bed when I passed out, face-down on the hallway carpet.

So when John and his buddies came around the corner to check on me, they found me face-down on the floor…my nightie up over my head, bare butt in the air. Oh dear. John was beyond mortified 🙁

I dare say that was my last pub crawl.

So there you have it – a few embarrassing stories to put a smile on your face…and perhaps make you feel better about a faux pas (or two) of your own! Which I would LOVE to hear, by the way.

Related blogs by Maryanne

A Few Laughs for Father’s Day – Funny Sayings from the Alex Pope Quote Collection

Finding Faith – In Ourselves

Put It Out There – Whatever “It” Is For You

Embracing Our Embarrassments – Our Courage Gives Others Candour

Maryanne Pope is the author of A Widow’s Awakening, the playwright of Saviour and the screenwriter of God’s Country. Maryanne is the CEO of Pink Gazelle Productions and Chair of the John Petropoulos Memorial Fund. If you would like to receive her regular weekly blog, please sign up here.

 

 

 Do You Believe in Soul Mates?

 

“Writing is not life, but I think that sometimes it can be a way back to life.”

– Stephen King, On Writing

What if your dream was handed to you on the same platter as your soul mate’s life?

Not all fairy tales have happy endings…but perhaps the best ones aren’t meant to? Maybe true love is also tough love?

Here’s a little story for you…

Please click here to watch a 2-min video.

“We must own our true stories. In doing so, we begin again to belong to the world in the way only we can. The door to soul opens.”

– Bill Plotkin, Soulcraft; Crossing into the Mysteries of Nature and the Psyche

“The breeze at dawn has secrets to tell you.

Don’t go back to sleep.

You must ask for what you really want.

Don’t go back to sleep.

People are going back and forth across the door sill where the two worlds touch. 

The door is round and open. 

Don’t go back to sleep.”

– Rumi

About A Widow’s Awakening

With over 2000 copies soldA Widow’s Awakening is touching the heart and soul of readers. This extraordinary story is a candid portrayal of Maryanne’s journey through the first year of grief after the on-duty death of her police officer husband. Engaging, powerful and heart-wrenching, this book captures the immense difficulty of accepting the unacceptable while learning to transform loss into positive change.

What Readers Are Saying…

“I started reading A Widow’s Awakening on Sunday and finished it Monday. The first third of your book touched me in ways I hadn’t anticipated. I cried so hard, my eyes became swollen; the pain was so real. I haven’t cried that hard in a long, long time. The grief you expressed was so real to me, as I experienced my own grief in a similar way. Reading your book has been healing for me.” 

– Cristy

“What an incredibly powerful and moving book! Although I had tears in my eyes as I read each page, I think your messages are uplifting and are so important in challenging the human spirit to make our lives mean something meaningful in this world, by helping others and doing something more for society. It is so cleverly written and thought provoking. I haven’t enjoyed a book this much since I taught classic literature to high school students a few years ago.”

– Sarah

“WOW! As soon as I read the first line, I couldn’t put the book down. The truth on soul-mates, hope, after-life, happiness, sadness…you definitely told your tale as it is. I can’t stop talking about this book. I’m glad you shared your story with us.”

– Parveen

For additional reader testimonials, please click here.

About Maryanne Pope

Maryanne Pope is the author of A Widow’s Awakening, the playwright of Saviour and the screenwriter of God’s Country. She is the executive producer of the documentary, Whatever Floats Your Boat…Perspectives on Motherhood. Maryanne is the CEO of Pink Gazelle Productions and Chair of the John Petropoulos Memorial Fund. If you would like to receive her regular weekly blog, please sign up here. Maryanne lives on Vancouver Island, British Columbia.

About Pink Gazelle Productions Inc.

PGP creates entertaining and authentic works that inspire and challenge people to effect positive change in themselves and the world around them. From books, plays, films and e-mail campaigns to greeting cards and inspirational quote cards, PGP products encourage and challenge people to reach their highest potential. The company was started in 2002 by Maryanne Pope. Please visit pinkgazelle.com for details.

About the John Petropoulos Memorial Fund

The JPMF is a registered Canadian charity that was started after the on-duty death of Cst John Petropoulos of the Calgary Police Service. John was investigating a break and enter complaint at a warehouse when he fell to his death after stepping through an unmarked false ceiling. There was no safety railing in place to warn him – or anyone else – of the danger. The JPMF raises public awareness about why and how to ensure workplaces and roads are safe for everyone, including emergency responders. For further information or to view the safety videos, please visit jpmf.ca.